Listening to an online course by Carolyn Myss, she asked the audience to write down the answer to the question, "What am I seeking?" And one word answers were not allowed. If the answer was happiness, you had to continue with "and happiness to me is " and name three things.
I was struck by how few times we ever stop to ask ourselves that. We go blindly through life never really knowing what it is that we are seeking. Why is that?
One of the things I do when coaching people is to ask them those questions and then devise a plan on how to get there. So often people are not really sure what they want, but are quite quick to tell me what they don't want. Have we gotten to that side of things in life that we only see the negative and can't see the positive? It can be a struggle for people when I ask them to frame their desire in the positive as that it isn't easy to do so if they aren't used to seeing life that way.
When do we lose that ability? As kids we are always looking forward to something and have a very clear cut idea of what we want and what we don't want isn't even in our realm of thinking. When do we get to that place where we have suffered enough hurts to say that we only know that we don't want such and such?
What does it take to start thinking about what we do want, what we are seeking in life? I invite you to answer that question, write it down, know what it is that you are seeking, so that you know the road you need to travel. And so that you know when you have found it and it doesn't slip through your fingers to be a regret someday in the future. It's so important to know what we want and to love the journey we take in finding it......