I remember having an experience that was a little unsettling when I was first learning to do energy work. When I talked to the instructor about it, he said to me, "Yes, sometimes you just have to surf that wave." And since then I've been learning to surf a lot of waves.
Surfing the wave is a way of negotiating what life throws at you. You learn to balance yourself on the wave or you fall and have to get up and catch it again. It's part of the ups and downs of life. Sometimes it's a matter of knowing what wave you want to catch. If you watch surfers, they will wait for the right wave and then catch it. If they catch one that isn't great they will turn off and go back out and wait for a better one. Or sometimes they will just ride it out knowing that it wasn't the greatest wave out there.
One of the things that it takes time to learn when it comes to surfing the wave, is knowing when to get off the wave. If you ride the wave into shore, you need to know that it is time to get off or you will be drawn back out into that same issue. When the wave has played itself out, it is time to find a new one.
In my work, I often see people that continue to ride the same wave without ever realizing it is time to get off and give it a rest. It becomes a pattern and it is difficult to realize that you are getting drawn back out when the wave recedes. It takes being aware, being mindful of what it is that you're doing, and often times we are on auto pilot. We find that we know how to surf a particular wave and then we get comfortable with it, even though it may not be serving us in the best possible way. We have learned just the right balance to keep us on top of it, but when it gets to shore, we don't know that it is time to get off and so we get drawn back out and surf it again and again.
I invite you to look at the areas of your life where you may be surfing the same wave. Take a look at it and see if it is time to get off of it and to find a new wave, or to just rest on the shore before going back out to try it again. As you start to examine it, you get better at being able to see the areas of your life where this is happening and you get better at stepping off when you need to, or even turning off the wave before you have to ride it to the finish. You will get better at being able to choose the right wave to surf to begin with. But first it takes looking at what you're surfing to be able to make the best possible choice. Look at those areas that aren't working and those that are working and see what makes one work well and the other one not work. Then use those resources from what does work to turn around what isn't working. Is it time to get off that wave, or maybe just reposition yourself on it. The only way to know is to first take a look at it................